When groups of people come together at a party, there can sometimes be friction, tension and arguments which can ruin the night for all. Anyone who has attended a party where a verbal shouting match – or even, heaven help us, a physical fight – has broken out can attest to this; it ruins the mood, sometimes irretrievably
As host, you have a vital role to play in preventing the build up of arguments. The first step is to be selective in your guest list, and not to invite people who you think may have a problem with one another. No matter how joyous the occasion, do not be fooled into thinking two arch enemies will be able to rub along together all night without a problem. This is particularly true if people are going to be drinking alcohol, which does not help keep tempers calm.
Instead, try to only invite people who you know will get along or do not already know each other. Quietly explain to those not invited why they have been excluded, and do this as soon as invitations go out – to avoid awkward “why haven’t I been invited?” confrontations.
However, even with this precaution, arguments can still break out. In this instance, all you have is the speed of your reaction. As soon as you sense a problem brewing, go and separate the individuals involved. Be forceful with your voice, but do not use physical force unless it becomes absolutely necessary. Keeping an eye out during the night and reacting quickly, you should be able to prevent a disagreement from becoming a full blown fight.